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Monday, November 20, 2006

2:46AM - House Hunting

Tom and I like to look up open houses on the Multiple Listing Service and go house hunting on Sundays. Today we saw a split level and a colonial on the north shore of Long Island. They where both just a little bit out of our price range, but what the hell. If we only looked at houses in our price range we probably would have to own clippers so we could take the chains off the front doors and a hammer to remove the wood boards from the window. Anyway who lives in a house they can actually afford. It's the American way to go into hock and give yourself a nervous breakdown trying to figure out how your going to make the next months mortgage payment. We are looking for a house my mother can have an apartment in. Small but nice with it's own full bathroom and kitchen all above ground. I love the current real estate market on Long Island. You really get to see real estate agents natures under pressure. We once looked at a house in SeaCliff that we actually both liked. It was being shown by a very nice proper lady who had all the right clothes, jewelery, and hair with a slightly smug attitude, obviously assured she had the best piece of property in the most exclusive area in the land. I asked the real estate agent if offering the seller a number that was about a hundred thousand dollars less then their asking price was O.K. at which time she informed me she thought for sure that the sellers would be highly insulted by such an offer. Needless to say one week later I got the call from the agent telling me that my suggested offer was not only not insulting to the sellers but highly competitive. I love people in sales. I told her we found another house that we liked better and made an offer that day. She thenked me for my time, and that's not a spelling error it's a waspy Long Island standard for implying go to the land down under without actually saying it, and then she wished me good luck and said her goodbyes. I felt thoroughly vindicated. Whenever I go to an area like that, meaning more upscale, I feel my poor Puerto Rican, Italian blood being sensed by the blue bloods and just know they can tell I don't belong there. Some are gracious and go out of their way to make me more comfortable; while some, who have a need to elevate themselves by diminishing others can smell my insecurities like a wolf hunting a rabbit and try to go in for the kill. Lucky for me one of the benefits of maturity and age is I've learned how to handle those dogs and I've learned how to bite back.

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2:10AM - Weekend

This weekend Tom and I spent time with my mother. She is really a blessing to have as a mother. As a child she gave my sister and myself everything she had. My mother is from modest beginnings and stayed that way throughout her life so far. She is not starving but doesn't have many luxuries. She has lead a very modest life. I am happy that she has been taking better care of herself lately. But even though she hasn't had much to give she gave everything she had. My sister and myself never lacked for love, and she always took great care of us. She worked making a living for all of my memorable childhood to put a roof over our heads and food on our table and she did a good job at it. I've always felt because of this I always wanted to give her back as much as I possibly could as an adult. I love to take her out and buy her clothes or jewelery. I love to spend money on her. I once bought her a car and had to stay away from her because I couldn't keep the smile off my face for self gratification for being able to do that for her. I wasn't bragging or boasting, or even full of my self, just eternally grateful to god for giving me that ability. So when Tom joins me or even better yet thinks of spending time together with her and treating her to dinner and a movie I just love him that much more.

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12:53AM - Starting out

I've never blogged before. This is my first shot at it. For three years my partner Tom has been trying to get me to read his blog on his site. I've been blowing him off and not in a good way thinking this would bore the crap out of me. Well I finally did it and read it. Tom and I have a very argumentative relationship and it can be very confrontational. We are both very opinionated and not usually of the same mind on most issues. We get along because we both love to argue a case. He's a lawyer. Well sometimes while your arguing and trying to exert your superior will over each other you forget to let each other know in a meaningful way how you really feel about each other. Well for me reading Tom's blog was a shot in the heart for how deap love can really be. I'm not a mushy guy and don't wear my heart on my sleeve at all. I'm not comfortable showing a lot of emotion and I'm even less comfortable when that emotion is mushy. I don't like mushy.

Current mood: grateful
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